I received the following letter regarding telling people things they don’t want to hear:
Dear People’s Therapist
I have been a fan of your blog for a long time, and thank you for running the blog! I have the following question:
My mother-in-law is obese. My father-in-law just passed away a year ago from diabetes. My husband wants to talk to his mother to get her to lose weight because he doesn’t want to lose her (she is almost 60 years old). We tried hinting but it got no where. We tried inviting her over to our house for healthy dinners but because I’m Chinese and my husband is Caucasian American, our Chinese diet of vegetables and tofu is not exactly her cup of tea. We tried analyzing the situation and decided that she doesn’t eat much during meals but she snacks a lot on junk foods. My husband wants to know how can he talk to his mother about her losing weight and not hurt her feelings or sound like we don’t like fat people (my husband and I are the only skinny people in the family)??
Thank you very much!!
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