My boyfriend’s ex has gone through therapy one on one and in a group setting. She now thinks she can diagnose and help anyone. In her mind she is “helping” but in reality she is being intrusive, causing more problems, trying to find out secrets. I see this as someone who is in a delusion that she can fix anyone and is looking for someone who is in her opinion broken. She thinks that she is bonding with people by “helping them”. She even tries to make you feel comfortable by saying she is a “bleeding heart.”I see it as she is prying into to people’s lives looking for dirt to use against them. I guess being trusted with someones secrets somehow makes her feel that she has created an unbreakable bond. My instinct is to run away as fast as I can from this person. I think she is dangerous, manipulative, untrustworthy, and only motivated by money not true friendship.This is the second one of his (my boyfriend) female friends that I don’t like or trust. The first one was in love with my boyfriend and trying to break us up.I know that everyone needs friends but I cannot help her. I cannot be a true friend to her because I don’t trust her. Life is hard enough without someone playing the therapist game. Does she realize that this game she is playing is dangerous and can have severe consequences? What does it say about me that I don’t want to have anything to do with her?
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