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TRANSATLANTIC PHONE SERVICE ANNIVERSARYYou’ll be delighted to hear that my Bloomsday-honoring webinar with Martin Underwood of Life Productions came off without a hitch.

Less successful, alas, was the process of recording a trans-Atlantic webinar held across “the pond” (as we trans-Atlantic types refer to “the puddle” that separates our nations) via the new-fangled inter webs.

The first webinar was, I’m certain, much-savored by the dozens of participants on the line while it was taking place…but the recording turned out rather…”dodgy” (as Martin might say.)

So we did it again. And this time the video came out…uh…”yucky” (as I might say.)bell-victoria

But rest assured, webinar fans – all is well!  We (meaning Martin’s technical folks) managed to pair the audio from the re-do of the webinar with the slides from the original webinar and the final, hybrid outcome is a very watchable, lively and I think useful hour or so of honest talk about career change for lawyers.

And so, without further ado…Here it is:

Many thanks to Martin, and Life Productions, and his technical wiz, Luka (who saved the day!) and to all the lawyers and legal professional folks who participated in the original incarnation of the webinar (we had a big, diverse crowd tune in, which was gratifying.)

If you’re interested in continuing to explore the stuff we’re talking about in the webinar, you might check out Life Production’s online course.  They have a lot of interesting ideas around how to find work that’s right for you, whether in law or in another field.

The Life Productions folks also did a great job of organizing everything – all that slide-producing and agenda-conceiving and scheduling and planning and so forth that I’m not especially “keen” on handling myself (I mostly like the talking and receiving accolades part.)

And especial thanks – or, uh, “cheers” – to all our UK participants tuning in from Fair Albion. I look forward to continuing our “special relationship.”

So stay calm and carry on – and find that job that really makes you happy!


My latest book is a comic novel about a psychotherapist who falls in love with a blue alien from outer space. I guarantee pure reading pleasure: Bad Therapist: A Romance

Please also check out The People’s Therapist’s legendary best-seller about the sad state of the legal profession: Way Worse Than Being a Dentist: The Lawyer’s Quest for Meaning

My first book is an unusual (and useful) introduction to the concepts underlying psychotherapy: Life is a Brief Opportunity for Joy


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gaslight_3 copyThe verb “to gaslight” comes from a 1938 stage play (which was then made into two movies, one starring Ingrid Bergman.) The plot is super-creepy, especially for 1938. In it, an evil husband tricks his young wife into believing she’s losing her mind by staging bizarre occurrences in their house, then pretending only she’s seeing and hearing them (yes, he’s after her money.) His favorite trick is dimming the gas lights in her room before clomping around upstairs or making strange sounds emanate from the walls. Soon she’s freaking out whenever the lights dim, expecting another bad trip. After each freak-out, once she’s good and melted down, he rushes to her aid, feigning concern.

It seems like a lifetime before she catches on – but she does. Things click as she (more or less) walks in on him rattling chains in the attic.

Law firms gaslight young lawyers – they create a world where nothing makes sense, then studiously pretend it does. You should catch on, too. You’re probably not the one who’s crazy.

Here’s how it works:

When you first get to the firm, it feels like summering all over again. Work is slow, and when assignments come, they’re low-priority research for marketing or pro bono. Here and there, you get a week of mindless doc review, which actually comes as a relief, since it’s easy and counts as billable hours. Mostly, you’re sitting at your desk, reading blogs. Your officemate is present half the time, not present half the time, but he doesn’t seem eager to explain what he’s up to any of the time, so you follow his lead and attempt to look serious and busy and involved in something, whatever that might be. You begin to wonder if there’s something wrong, but since you haven’t had a chance to do anything yet, it seems unlikely it’s something you’ve done. You build up the resolve to ask around and check if everyone else is dead, too – but they look busy enough, sitting at their desks, determinedly staring at their computers, so you chicken out. Just calm down, do what they’re doing – pretend there’s work. A week later, you pass the bar. You still haven’t really done anything, but it’s a step forward, right?


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