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Your inner little twerp

Posted in AskThePeople'sTherapistSeries, tagged ADHD, awareness, best self, Id, inner child, OCD, personality, Pleasure Principle, psychotherapy on February 22, 2012| 2 Comments »

I received the following letter regarding humankind’s on-going battle with its own impulses:

Hi Will,

I really enjoy reading your blog, you give great insight. I have often been told that I need to focus (I do not have ADHD or any other attention disorder).My problem or what others see as a problem is that I tend have a large array of interests and life goals that are not necessarily connected for which I have much passion. There so many things I want to do, but the older I get the more I feel like everyone is right. I need to pick an area or two at most on which to focus. I have heard the arguments for and against the jack of all trades approach to life, but I am still not sold. I don’t want to focus; I want to do it all. I am I being overly idealistic? Is it necessary for one to focus on their energy on one specific passion? If so, how does one decide how to go about focusing their energy on something specific?

-DH

And here’s my response:

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Take my advice

Posted in AboveTheLaw series, tagged Ann Landers, awareness, Blackberry, cardio exercise, condoms, Cosmo Magazine, Dear Abby, Dr. Ruth Westheimer, Health and wellness, Id, Lexipro, physical exercise, Richard Simmons, sex therapy, Violent Femmes on January 4, 2012| 10 Comments »

I’ve been talking to people – well, my people have been talking to people – about speaking engagements, radio shows, panels – celebrity stuff – the daily fodder of The People’s Therapist’s life of fame and glamour.

One group wants me to teach a workshop for young attorneys on “health and wellness.” Well, okay. Whatever. I can do that. How much?

They offered the same course in a different city last year, using another therapist-who-is-also-a-lawyer (I wasn’t aware others existed, but I’m not threatened.) To make things easy on myself, I asked how that other (lesser) therapist-cum-lawyer contrived to occupy her “workshop.”

“Oh, she gave them a list of pointers for ‘self-care’,” I was told. “You know, get enough sleep, exercise, eat right, that kind of thing.”

Piece of cake – except I’m not sure they need me to dispense said epiphanies. Richard Simmons manages to preach an identical gospel while everyone performs jumping jacks in lavender leotards.

No matter. Giving advice is what people expect therapists to do.

It’s like “sex therapy.” Remember “sex therapy”? Be honest: Did Ruth Westheimer ever teach you anything you didn’t already know? Yet you found it deeply, mysteriously satisfying each time she chirp-chortled that phrase – “with a firm greep on dee head of dee penis.” Tearing your attention from a tiny Israeli woman in her sixties discussing penises is like trying not to ogle a car wreck. Why fight the hunger?

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Your Id – and Sarah Palin

Posted in Current Events, Intriguing Patients, tagged healthcare, Id, inner child, Pleasure Principle, regression, Republicans, Sarah Palin, Scott Brown, Tea Partiers, Tea Party, Tea Party movement, thisiswhyyourefat.com on September 15, 2010| 1 Comment »

There are foods no rational human would knowingly ingest: the stuff listed on this website.

Why would you eat a double bacon peanut butter egg and cheese burger with chipotle mayo?

Because you think it will taste good.

To be precise, a little child inside you thinks it will taste good. That little child is unconscious, and he seeks pleasure. Freud called him the “Id.” He doesn’t think. He reaches for something shiny because it’s shiny.

Welcome to the appeal of Sarah Palin.

Sarah is the political equivalent of marshmallow fluff, chocolate fudge, mac & cheese and cookie dough in a deep fryer.

Why does she look like she’ll taste good – and why is she so bad for you?:

FIRST REASON: Sarah has an easy answer for EVERYTHING.

Millions of Americans without healthcare? Sarah would shrink government while lowering costs, cutting taxes and creating jobs. It’s THAT SIMPLE!!

Foreign Affairs? Sarah would stand tall against our enemies and stop terrorism in its tracks while keeping us the strongest nation in the world.

Immigration? Sarah would stand up for real Americans and protect our jobs.

The environment? There’s plenty of oil – we just have to drill for it! Sarah doesn’t believe in global warming. We can do whatever we want. That’s what the planet’s there for – having fun!

What else is there?

Who cares!

Sarah would cut taxes, build the economy, create jobs, shrink government, make America strong and bring the family back – like things used to be in the olden days! Everything would be super!!

You betcha.

Does any of this make sense?

Does washing down a bag of Doritos with a two liter bottle of Mountain Dew and a super-size bag of peanut butter M&M’s make sense? Does it have to make sense?

It feels good. Until a few hours later. When you throw up.

SECOND REASON: Sarah’s just like you!

Palin’s Tea Party supporters are always stressing how “real” Sarah is. That word – “real” – is code for “just like me!” Your Id, like a small child, is by definition a narcissist – he cannot see where he stops and another person begins, so doesn’t see anyone or anything beyond his own reflection.

Neither does Sarah!

She brings you…you. Not like that weirdo Obama, who’s…well…umm…he looks “different” – you know what I mean?

Your Id wants to have fun. He seeks pleasure. That’s the “Pleasure Principle.” Your unconscious – this child – is utterly regressed. He likes sugar, and shiny things. He likes Sarah.

In case you need a male Sarah Palin? Don’t worry, we’ve got you covered.

That would be Scott Brown.

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Stuck.

Posted in AskThePeople'sTherapistSeries, tagged dissertation, Id, inner child, procrastination, stuck, thesis, writer's block on July 13, 2010| 4 Comments »

This week’s question is from A.M.:

What strategies can you suggest for someone who is stuck when writing, say a thesis or a dissertation? Two people dear to me have essentially withdrawn from society, apparently unable to deal with the ego strain of finishing this last piece of the degree. Any thoughts?

And here’s my answer:

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To submit a question to Ask The People’s Therapist, please email it as text or a video to: wmeyerhofer@aquietroom.com

If I answer your question on the site, you’ll win a free session of psychotherapy with The People’s Therapist!