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members-onlyI was recently interviewed by the lovely and vivacious Melissa Maleske, Senior Reporter for Law 360, for an article entitled “How to Stop Hating Your BigLaw Life” – and you can read it here.

Aha!  But there’s a catch (there always seems to be a catch in law, n’est-ce pas?)  You see, Law 360 is a LexisNexis Company, and you know how LexisNexis works:  You no pay, You no read.

Yes….One must subscribe to LexisNexis in order to indulge in the sybaritic delights that await you behind its sturdy paywall.

Luckily, they have a free trial offer.  So it’s really no big deal.

But, in order to tantalize you further – and to render the temptation frankly unendurable – here’s an excerpt from the article:

Based on the statistics, their pool of potential clients is considerable. The American Psychological Association has found that lawyers are 3.6 times more likely to have depression than the general population. The Centers for Disease Control says lawyers are near the top of the list when suicide deaths are sorted by profession.
“It’s pretty clear that firms don’t care [about lawyer happiness],” Meyerhofer says. “Frankly, there are plenty more lawyers out there, you can grind one up and spit it out and another lines up. … I think they’ve created a world where everyone from the junior associates to the senior partners are making a tradeoff — money in exchange for an unhealthy lifestyle — and it’s kind of tragic.”

…and one more tantalizing tidbit:

There are lawyers who get a genuine thrill and sense of satisfaction out of practicing law. If you’re not one of them and you’re miserable, there’s a way out. For Meyerhofer, the realization came when he confronted the fact that this isn’t just a dress rehearsal for life, this is it. Why spend his life on work that he had no true interest in or acumen for?
“The big problem in law is that the profession has an awful lot of people who don’t belong there,” Meyerhofer says. “They just don’t really love law. They’re smart and they can do it. The schools are eager to train them and the firms snap them up. … Law is so intense that you better love it. I know lawyers who don’t mind working all night on that brief or staying all weekend to close that deal because they love it. But that’s a rare bird.”

Now you must keep reading.  Resistance is futile.  Go ahead, sign up, log in.  Tune in, turn on, drop out.  Tear down the wall.  Do what you must.  Foment revolution.  Burn it all down.  But get inside.
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Please check out The People’s Therapist’s legendary best-seller about the sad state of the legal profession: Way-Worse-Than-Being-Dentist

My first book is an unusual (and useful) introduction to the concepts underlying psychotherapy: Life is a Brief Opportunity for Joy

My latest book is a comic novel about a psychotherapist who falls in love with a blue alien from outer space. I guarantee pure reading pleasure: Bad Therapist: A Romance.

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Here’s the original post.

I can’t summon my usual wit in this instance, folks.  As a Jew and a gay man and a human being I’m humbled and moved and tearful and…well, thank you, Eva Mozes Kor.  Thank you.

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Please check out The People’s Therapist’s legendary best-seller about the sad state of the legal profession: Way-Worse-Than-Being-Dentist

My first book is an unusual (and useful) introduction to the concepts underlying psychotherapy: Life is a Brief Opportunity for Joy

My latest book is a comic novel about a psychotherapist who falls in love with a blue alien from outer space. I guarantee pure reading pleasure: Bad Therapist: A Romance.

162546268-495x328I must be, because I was just interviewed by the celebrated Leslie A. Gordon of none other than the ABA Journal for her article, entitled “How Lawyers can avoid Burnout and Debilitating Anxiety”.

And Leslie also interviewed my old friend, Jeena Cho – and I know she’s famous!

And there’s this great portrait of me taken by the photographer, Len Irish! 0715FANXIOUS-MEYERHOFERL

The article does a great job of highlighting the issues of anxiety and burnout among lawyers.

I modestly confess that I particularly liked this quote, which somehow fell trippingly from the tongue of little-ol’ Moi:

It’s important to note that no strategy should be touted as a cure-all. “The implication can become that you’re struggling with anxiety or depression because you’re not doing your yoga or not meditating or not eating right or somehow choosing to go without sleep,” Meyerhofer says, “that it’s your fault for not having mastered some ‘effective strategy’ that would make all these issues disappear.” The fact remains that law can be brutal, and most young associates are not equipped for what they find when they enter the profession, he says. “You’re not tossing and turning in bed, roiled by anxiety, because you’re choosing to eat badly or to skip your yoga class. It has a lot more to do with being thrown into the deep end in an extremely competitive, exploitive business driven not by compassion or collegiality or the desire to mentor, but by profit and money and competition for prestige.”

Thank you, ABA Journal, and Leslie, and everyone who helped produce this piece.  I hope the message gets out that being a lawyers doesn’t have to be synonymous with being stressed out and miserable.

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Please check out The People’s Therapist’s legendary best-seller about the sad state of the legal profession: Way-Worse-Than-Being-Dentist

My first book is an unusual (and useful) introduction to the concepts underlying psychotherapy: Life is a Brief Opportunity for Joy

My latest book is a comic novel about a psychotherapist who falls in love with a blue alien from outer space. I guarantee pure reading pleasure: Bad Therapist: A Romance.

TRANSATLANTIC PHONE SERVICE ANNIVERSARYYou’ll be delighted to hear that my Bloomsday-honoring webinar with Martin Underwood of Life Productions came off without a hitch.

Less successful, alas, was the process of recording a trans-Atlantic webinar held across “the pond” (as we trans-Atlantic types refer to “the puddle” that separates our nations) via the new-fangled inter webs.

The first webinar was, I’m certain, much-savored by the dozens of participants on the line while it was taking place…but the recording turned out rather…”dodgy” (as Martin might say.)

So we did it again. And this time the video came out…uh…”yucky” (as I might say.)bell-victoria

But rest assured, webinar fans – all is well!  We (meaning Martin’s technical folks) managed to pair the audio from the re-do of the webinar with the slides from the original webinar and the final, hybrid outcome is a very watchable, lively and I think useful hour or so of honest talk about career change for lawyers.

And so, without further ado…Here it is:

Many thanks to Martin, and Life Productions, and his technical wiz, Luka (who saved the day!) and to all the lawyers and legal professional folks who participated in the original incarnation of the webinar (we had a big, diverse crowd tune in, which was gratifying.)

If you’re interested in continuing to explore the stuff we’re talking about in the webinar, you might check out Life Production’s online course.  They have a lot of interesting ideas around how to find work that’s right for you, whether in law or in another field.

The Life Productions folks also did a great job of organizing everything – all that slide-producing and agenda-conceiving and scheduling and planning and so forth that I’m not especially “keen” on handling myself (I mostly like the talking and receiving accolades part.)

And especial thanks – or, uh, “cheers” – to all our UK participants tuning in from Fair Albion. I look forward to continuing our “special relationship.”

So stay calm and carry on – and find that job that really makes you happy!

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My latest book is a comic novel about a psychotherapist who falls in love with a blue alien from outer space. I guarantee pure reading pleasure: Bad Therapist: A Romance.

Please also check out The People’s Therapist’s legendary best-seller about the sad state of the legal profession: Way-Worse-Than-Being-Dentist

My first book is an unusual (and useful) introduction to the concepts underlying psychotherapy: Life is a Brief Opportunity for Joy

gaslight_3 copyThe verb “to gaslight” comes from a 1938 stage play (which was then made into two movies, one starring Ingrid Bergman.) The plot is super-creepy, especially for 1938. In it, an evil husband tricks his young wife into believing she’s losing her mind by staging bizarre occurrences in their house, then pretending only she’s seeing and hearing them (yes, he’s after her money.) His favorite trick is dimming the gas lights in her room before clomping around upstairs or making strange sounds emanate from the walls. Soon she’s freaking out whenever the lights dim, expecting another bad trip. After each freak-out, once she’s good and melted down, he rushes to her aid, feigning concern.

It seems like a lifetime before she catches on – but she does. Things click as she (more or less) walks in on him rattling chains in the attic.

Law firms gaslight young lawyers – they create a world where nothing makes sense, then studiously pretend it does. You should catch on, too. You’re probably not the one who’s crazy.

Here’s how it works:

When you first get to the firm, it feels like summering all over again. Work is slow, and when assignments come, they’re low-priority research for marketing or pro bono. Here and there, you get a week of mindless doc review, which actually comes as a relief, since it’s easy and counts as billable hours. Mostly, you’re sitting at your desk, reading blogs. Your officemate is present half the time, not present half the time, but he doesn’t seem eager to explain what he’s up to any of the time, so you follow his lead and attempt to look serious and busy and involved in something, whatever that might be. You begin to wonder if there’s something wrong, but since you haven’t had a chance to do anything yet, it seems unlikely it’s something you’ve done. You build up the resolve to ask around and check if everyone else is dead, too – but they look busy enough, sitting at their desks, determinedly staring at their computers, so you chicken out. Just calm down, do what they’re doing – pretend there’s work. A week later, you pass the bar. You still haven’t really done anything, but it’s a step forward, right?

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james-joyceAre your Bloomsday plans still not nailed down?

Are you (like Molly Bloom), just a girl (or boy) who can’t say no?

Then say yes.  Say yes.  You will Yes.  Say yes you say yes you will Yes.

Say Yes to a free webinar I’m doing with the lovely and rather fetching (photo below) Martin Underwood, of Life Productions.  He’s English and a handsome devil and I said yes, yes I will Yes…upon the condition that we keep things fast-paced, scintillating and titillating – a stream of consciousness, whisking past like a day in Dublin, or (say) getting kissed under the Moorish wall.  And he said…Yes (my mountain flower) Yes.  1432209740745

So, it’s happening the free webinar, on – Tuesday, June 16th, 2015 at 7pm GMT / 2pm ET / 11am PT – Bloomsday, for you Joyceans out there.  And it shall be ravishing, this free webinar of ours.

Here are the deets.  It’s entirely free – like the best of modernist prose – exuberant, unbridled, decidedly salacious.  This is not something you want to miss.

meyerhofer picAnd it’s free.  And Martin is handsome – and interesting – and English.  And he’s a lawyer – a barrister, in fact (isn’t that adorable?!)   And he’s titled this FREE webinar (did I mention that it’s free?) “More Than Law – Find Better Work, In or Out of the Law.”

Which is hard to argue with.Davidson-Ireland-Gay-Marriage-1200

I’ll be there.

So say yes yes say yes you will Yes.

Sign up here.

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My new book is a comic novel about a psychotherapist who falls in love with a blue alien from outer space. I guarantee pure reading pleasure: Bad Therapist: A Romance.

Please also check out The People’s Therapist’s legendary best-seller about the sad state of the legal profession: Way-Worse-Than-Being-Dentist

My first book is an unusual (and useful) introduction to the concepts underlying psychotherapy: Life is a Brief Opportunity for Joy

3-e1423885761774I had the pleasure of confabbing away the afternoon a few days ago with the Jeena Cho, author (along with her co-author, Karen Gifford) of the upcoming book, The Anxious Lawyer, to be published in mid-2015 by the ABA.  Jeena recorded our conversation for her on-going podcast series, known as “The Resilient Lawyer.”

As you can probably tell from the resulting podcast (you can also listen to it and download it on iTunes), Jeena (although a lawyer) is very very nice, exceedingly resilient and not in the least bit anxious.  She’s also an expert on stuff like mindfulness and meditation, especially as it might play a part in rendering other lawyers’ lives a tad calmer and happier.

We covered a lot of ground – Jeena is easy to talk to, a great listener and asker of insightful questions.  You’ll have to overlook the gentle sounds of my miniature dachshund, Simon, snoring in the background, but I’m certain it’s worth the sacrifice.  Simon certainly wasn’t complaining.  IMG_5113

Jeena and Karen offer mindfulness meditation training for law firms, which seems like a good idea to me.  If any of you out there happen to manage a law firm and are in the market for calming bliss – well, I can’t think of anyone better with whom to attain it.

Thank you, Jeena, for the opportunity to meet you, and discuss the  important issues of our times…all accompanied by the soothing, slumberous susurrus of my much-loved senior canine colleague.

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My new book is a comic novel about a psychotherapist who falls in love with a blue alien from outer space. I guarantee pure reading pleasure: <a href=”http://www.amazon.com/Bad-Therapist-A-Romance-ebook/dp/B00BY8GV8M&#8221; target=”_blank”>Bad Therapist: A Romance</a>.

Please also check out The People’s Therapist’s legendary best-seller about the sad state of the legal profession: <a href=”http://www.amazon.com/Worse-Than-Being-Dentist-ebook/dp/B007UVXG0I&#8221; target=”_blank”>Way-Worse-Than-Being-Dentist</a>

My first book is an unusual (and useful) introduction to the concepts underlying psychotherapy: <a href=”http://www.amazon.com/Life-Brief-Opportunity-Will-Meyerhofer/dp/1937600475&#8243; target=”_blank”>Life is a Brief Opportunity for Joy</a>

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